It starts with your attitude.  The first thing to do as soon as a problem surfaces is to discipline ourselves not to waste time worrying, moaning etc.  “If you find yourself in a hole, the first thing to do is stop digging”.  You have the power to let the problem consume you or tackle the problem head on.

Identify what works and keep doing it.  Not everything will be a problem!  Look at what does work for you, or what other issues you have solved in the past, is there anything you can learn from those experiences?

Focus on what you can do and the ‘now’, not what has happened so far.  The past cannot change only the future.

Imagine what an ideal outcome would be to your situation.  What does it look like and feel like?  Rate where you are now and where you want to be with the situation on a scale on 1 – 10 (with 1 being low).  If you are currently at a 2 but want to be at a full 10, start to look for small solutions that can move you up that rating scale.  By rating things you may realise that something is not actually that bad, and although you want things to improve perhaps a magic ‘10’ is not needed.

Commit to take action. Look at your options and take personal responsibility to put those actions in place to move forward as things will only change if you make it happen.